Self-centeredness is good, but there has to be a measure for everything.
What is selfishness?
Self-interest and self-interest. It is important for such people to feel an advantage at the expense of others.
In fact, each of us is selfish. Consider the situation. When we pass by a beggar, we usually have no desire to help him. But if we talk to a successful, self-sufficient person, we tend to be helpful to him, even though he doesn’t need it.
Why does this happen? We need it. We see a strong person as a resource for ourselves. For example, to learn something new, to realize and change the algorithms in our lives that are not working.
Underneath it all is selfishness. Moreover, even underneath the desire to do charity is the need for self-acceptance – “I am good, I am kind, I help others. The individual is trying to make amends to himself or herself and to others for past mistakes.
Society commonly calls an egoist a person who does not strike a balance of reciprocity with others. He tries to satisfy only his own needs. As a rule, often attracts people who put themselves in second place.
They zealously help others in order to thus accept themselves as a decent member of society. However, victims often have an undeveloped relationship with their parents, so they tend to admire, reaching for the egoist, trying to fulfill at least somehow through contact with the outside their inner needs.
How do you distinguish selfishness from healthy self-love?
Self-love is respect and care for one’s physical and psychological health, the development of talents, the realization of desires. Egoism, on the other hand, is an excessive preoccupation with one’s own interests without taking into account the needs and opinions of others. Self-love is important for the formation of a healthy self-esteem, while selfishness can lead to conflicts and dissatisfaction of others.